Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Wediquette: So, When Are You Having Babies?

"We are engaged and getting married in a few months. We aren't even legally tied to each other yet and people are starting to ask us when we are going to have a baby. First things first people - how do we handle this new form of harassment?"

It never fails, right? You get engaged and everyone wants to know when and where the wedding is happening. Once you get all the wedding details ironed out, people start asking when a baby is coming. I personally find it beyond inappropriate, but, that doesn't stop people from asking you. So, how does one handle this line of questioning. Firstly, choosing to have a baby is entirely up to you and your fiance and when to have a baby is again, up to you both. This decision is a seriously important one and its no one else's business. Period, end of story. Just smile sweetly and say "you'll be the first to know when it happens". People will want to know why you are waiting, why you want to be a certain age, why, why, why. The why is between you two. The why is personal and doesn't matter to anyone else.

On a personal note: being asked when you are having a baby to me is akin to asking how much money is in your bank account. These are things that people don't need to know. I've come up with some very risque and shocking answers that I won't share here but they certainly get people to shut their mouths and stop asking. Being asked repeatedly {especially as I get older} is bothersome and I think its a massive social faux pas. Just my two cents.

1 comment:

  1. Ah! I would love to hear some of those risque answers you have!!!

    Loving your blog!